A free quiz

Are you single, or still waiting?

Being single does not always mean you have stopped waiting. In about two minutes you'll find where the waiting still lives, and leave with a short workbook: six steps to call your energy back, and seven days to practise it.

  • About 2 minutes
  • 9 questions, free
A person standing among translucent panels, each showing a different version of themselves “I’m fine being single.” “Maybe after the move.” “Just checking my phone.”
What we say, and where the energy goes.
Does this sound like you?

You tell people you are fine being single, and mostly you are. Then someone else's news lands and something tightens.

There is a trip, a move or a decision you have quietly been saving for when there is someone.

One unclear message can take your whole evening.

Now and then you still wonder how it would have gone with someone from before.

It is not a flaw and it is not bad luck. It is where some of your energy is still going, and there are six places it tends to go.

The six patterns

Six places the waiting lives.

The quiz finds your pattern, then the particular version of it you are living, and how much energy is going out right now.

  1. 01

    Past Connection

    Some of your energy is still with someone from before.

  2. 02

    Future Fantasy

    Your real life is waiting for the relationship to arrive.

  3. 03

    Chase

    Your energy moves outward, looking for certainty.

  4. 04

    Need to Be Chosen

    Your sense of worth rises and falls with being chosen.

  5. 05

    Life on Hold

    Parts of your life are paused until love begins.

  6. 06

    No Longer Waiting

    Your life is full, and you are open to love.

What you leave with

A clear picture, and one thing to do with it.

  1. 01
    Your pattern, and your version of it

    Not just which of the six. Which flavour of it, with the first move for that one.

  2. 02
    Your second pattern, your profile and how loud it is

    How the six patterns show up for you, and how much energy has actually been going out lately.

  3. 03
    Call Your Energy Back

    A short workbook: six steps, followed by a seven day practice for your pattern.

Is this for you?

Who this is for.

This is for you if

  • You are single, or in something undefined, and part of you is still waiting.
  • You have done some inner work and want something more precise than “just love yourself”.
  • You are willing to answer honestly, even when the true answer is not the flattering one.

This isn't for you if

  • You want tactics for getting someone back or getting more matches.
  • You are looking for a diagnosis. This is a reflection, not a clinical assessment.

How this quiz works

Answer as the person you actually were last month, not the one you are working on becoming. The uncomfortable answer is usually the true one, and nobody else sees this. Some questions take more than one answer.

The first two questions are broad. After that the quiz follows wherever your answers point, and the later questions get specific. Three of them ask what actually happened rather than how you feel about it.

About 2 minutes. Free.

Jakob and Alyssa · The Dharma Academy OÜ, Estonia · Privacy